Why are we filled with Pride?

We sing, “I’m proud to be an American..” We say, “He’s too proud to ask for help.” “He/She has no pride.” “I’m so proud of my kids.” “Where is your pride?” Our parents teach us to be proud. We are proud of: our family name, our home, our wealth, our school, our town, and our country. We could add hundreds of examples or sayings about pride. But you get the idea.

What is pride? According to, Pride is:


1. a high or inordinate opinion of one’s own dignity, importance, merit, or superiority, whether as cherished in the mind or as displayed in bearing, conduct, etc.

2. the state or feeling of being proud.

3. a becoming or dignified sense of what is due to oneself or one’s position or character; self-respect; self-esteem.

4. pleasure or satisfaction taken in something done by or belonging to oneself or believed to reflect credit upon oneself.

Did you notice how many times, “self”, is mentioned in #’s 3 and 4?

A few Synonyms for pride are: gratification, presumption, pretension, assumption, narcissism.

Perhaps we should be asking, “How does God view pride?” and “What does the Bible say about pride?” Here are some references I found in the Bible. Please look them up and read them for yourself.

Psalms 36:11, Psalms 73:6, Proverbs 8:13, Proverbs 13:10, Proverbs 16:18, Proverbs 29:23, Danial 4:37, Daniel 5:20, Mark 7:21-22, I Timothy 3:6, I John 2:16 I am using the Spirit Filled Life Bible from Thomas Nelson Publishers. The New King James Version.

You will see, from the verses I listed above, that pride causes: wickedness, violence, evil, hatred, strife, and destruction. It will bring you low, cause God to bring you down, depose you from a position of glory and power.

It is equated with: evil thoughts, adultery, fornication, murder, theft, covetousness, lewdness, blasphemy, and foolishness. It causes you to be condemned by God as is Satan. It is not of God, it is of the world.

When the Spirit of God alighted on Jesus’s head in the form of a dove, at His Baptism, God didn’t say, “This is my beloved son, I am proud of Him.” He said, “This is my beloved son in whom I am well pleased.”

How can we make ourselves more pleasing in the sight of God? He said we must be humble.

How can we begin to control our pride? I think the first step is to remind ourselves that everything we have: possessions, appearance, wealth, or talent are all gifts from God. We wouldn’t have anything without His allowing us to have it. He has blessed this nation greatly.

Do you have a roof over your head? Food in your home? Clothing? Medical care? Congratulations. You have more than 95% of the people on this planet. No matter how high you live, or how lowly you live, whether you have wealth or are near poverty, God has blessed you. Since He did it, stop taking credit for it. Tamp down a bit of your pride and be thankful.

Maybe we should be saying; “He’s embarrassed to ask for help. He doesn’t want to admit he isn’t self-sufficient.” “He/She doesn’t know how to dress or behave.” “I am filled with joy by my children and pleased with their accomplishments.” “I am thankful for my home.” Sounds different, doesn’t it?

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Those of us who are afflicted with that old malady, insomnia, know how many hours we spend at night trying to turn our brains off and go to sleep. We toss and turn, look at the clock every hour or two, and fight the frustration of knowing the alarm will ring soon. We have to,”Rise and shine”, put a smile on our face, and go to work. Just like the rest of the world.

When I was young, my thoughts ran to bills, my marriage, the kids, and co-workers. Did I remember to lock the door? Did I send that payment to the electric company? Boy did I put my foot in my mouth the last time I saw, (insert name here). I would run problems through my head half the night and solved quite a few.

Then there is pain. Nighttime is the perfect place to weep when someone you love has betrayed you or broken your heart. It’s also the best time to rehash offences, grudges, and to allow conversations in your head when you finally know what you wish you had said. “Why didn’t I think of saying so-and-so, when that happened?”

Times change. Years pass. We grow older and hopefully, wiser. Now our night thoughts turn from children to grandchildren. From problems at work to budgeting a fixed income. From grudges and pain to forgiveness and understanding. We begin to realize that we are all human. We all make mistakes. Some are thoughtless and some are vicious, but dwelling on them poisons our own soul and doesn’t affect the offender at all. Forgiveness is for our own benefit, not theirs. Their offences are between them and God. We can rest in the knowledge that He will handle it.

Once I reached this point, I found that my thoughts turned to other subjects. Night after night my mind thinks of things that I wish I could say to a grandchild, a friend, or a stranger who is facing a problem and doesn’t know where to get advice. Things that I believe are important about faith, family, politics, and finding the purpose of our existence.

During this past year I have been unable to rid my mind of these thoughts, even to the point where not sharing them seems wrong. A string of seemingly unrelated circumstances have led me here, to this blog. I hope you will come back often to read my Thoughts In The Night.